w/ emotional resilience coach Megan Warren ๐ง๐ปโโ๏ธ๐ค ๐ฌ on travel as a form of escapism + asking: how to stop making fear-based decisions? (011)
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Hello and welcome back to Don't Be Strangers, a series of collaborative conversations for learning from friends and strangers alike on how to create agency in your life and deepen your connections with everyone you meet. My name's XinYi, and I want to thank everyone who participated in the official launch giveaway! If you have an extra 2 minutes this holiday season and would like to support for free, please consider sharing this show with a friend you love, signing up for the newsletter, and/or leaving a review on Apple Podcasts. That would be the most amazing Christmas gift ever.
Speaking of which, did you get to listen to the bonus early-Christmas special episode with my hubs and sis? It was absolute chaos but as it is an off-format experimental episode, I'd adore some feedback which you can send my way on the @dontbestrangers instagram page!
With all that out of the way, I want to introduce to you Megan Warren the co-host of today's podcast. I met Megan via a mutual in Wifi Tribe and... if you haven't been following along in the episodes, Wifi Tribe is a group of digital nomads who travel together to work remotely from destinations around the world. And if this piques your interest, you can listen to episode 8 where I chat with my Oaxaca, Mexico Wifi Tribe host Joe.
You know when you meet someone who has absolute exuberance for life and what they're creating or contributing to the world? Well, Megan, gave me exactly those vibes. She's an example of someone who really created agency in her own life. We dug into (1) travel as a form of escapism, (2) how people end up unconsciously making fear-based decisions, (3) why we cave into peer pressure, (4) how I overcame a horrible friend breakup, and (5) authentic self connection. So this is Megan...
Timestamps
โ๏ธย More on Wifi Tribe: w/ Wifi Tribe host Joe ๐โ๐ผ๐ณ๏ธโ๐ the magic of journaling + asking: is anything truly frivolous or pointless? (008)
๐More on my Personal Development Journey: w/ creative chimera storyteller Abhas ๐ฆ๐ฎ๐ณ๐ on life-changing solo trips + asking: how to reframe anxiety as excitement? (009)
6:11 - Megan to Xinyi: How possible do you think it is to make meaningful connections if you don't connect authentically to yourself?
9:21 - Megan: It's amazing, too, how much of our reaction to our partner is really about how we see ourselves.
9:30 - Xinyi: Giving an example of how she used information from other people's relationships to challenge her own
14:02 - Xinyi to Megan: What brought you to each of the places youโve tried living in? Which was your favorite(s) and why?
15:13 - Megan: It took me a long time to figure out that changing locations doesn't change what's coming with me.
18:30 - Xinyi to Megan: Would you be open to some of the emotional baggage you were holding?
19:30 - Megan: I never felt like I found a place that spoke to each side of myself.
20:31 - Megan: My top values are newness/novelty/adventure... as related to learning.
21:59 - Megan: I would set the goals and achieve the goals... I was the under-fulfilled overachiever.
22:38 - Megan: So I think once I sat down and looked at those patterns...
23:50 - Xinyi to Megan: So how do you maintain your need for adventure having settled down?
36:58 - Xinyi's Book Rec: The Energy of Money: A Spiritual Guide to Financial and Personal Fulfillment
27:52 - Megan to Xinyi: How do you (personally) transition from being a stranger to yourself to not being a stranger?
29:14 - Xinyi: About not having self awareness
32:29 - Xinyi's Book Rec: Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead by Brenรฉ Brown
33:25 - Megan: It's amazing how we get math, we get science, but we don't get any social or emotional learning. And they're showing now that the people with emotional intelligence are they people who are showing satisfaction in life and fulfillment in life.
33:55 - Megan to Xinyi: Was there an ah-ha moment when you woke up an said: "Hey, this isn't for me?"
36:00 - Megan (on Rebelliousness): That's a strength. You are doing what you want to do, because you're able to stand up and say "no thanks."
36:25 - Megan to Xinyi: Did you have an ah-ha moment that you'll share? (on Journaling)
38:59 - Xinyi: I'm going to test my will-be husband... (spoiler: he passed ๐)
40:05 - Xinyi: The reason why this friendship breakup ghosting situation was so heartbreaking was because...
43:01 - Megan: It means that through journaling, you came to a space where you're able to make values-based decision in honor of courage.... and not fear-based decisions. A lot of time people don't understand, they don't look inside and will make, unconsciously, fear-based decisions in every area of their life. And then it all adds up together to a life they don't really want, it's just a life that they're living.
43:47 - Xinyi to Megan: What have you wanted to do/try but have yet to do so?
48:15 - Xinyi to Megan: How do you define a stranger and at what point do they transition from being one to not being one?
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I always enjoy digging into this last question because you always come across interesting gems of answers. How would you answer it? If you're dying to share your own thoughts, you should consider coming on to co-host an episode! The application is always open and anyone of any background is welcomed to apply!
I'm also really curious to know as my replies may start becoming repetitive for longer-term listeners (for example, my personal development journey story transitioning from a student to an adult which I also highlighted in episode 9 with Abhas), how do you feel about that? Would love to hear from you if you want to stop by the instagram page @dontbestrangers to say hi!
And if any of the personal development stuff resonates with you โ I actually wrote a Life Vision Guide eBook during my time in Mexico. The context for this is that within Wifi Tribe, we're encouraged to give a skillshare session and, as you may have noticed, I'm super passionate about the subject of living for yourself. As I've spent quite a number of years consuming different resources and trying out different life hacks, I decided to compile all the books, podcasts, blog articles, etc. into my little personal 4-week course for you to define your life vision to really figure out what you want from life in one little 1-hour read eBook. If I've piqued your interest, I'll link Your Life Vision Guide my eBook in the shownotes and you can check it out! It'll also be a great way to wrap up 2021 and kick off 2022 in a really fantastic way! Until next time... don't be a stranger!