w/ Wifi Tribe host Joe ๐โ๐ผ๐ณ๏ธโ๐ the magic of journaling + asking: is anything truly frivolous or pointless? (008)
Co-Host:ย Joe Santiniย @savagesantiniย | Host:ย Xinyi Xanย @xinyixan
Annnd we're back with episode 8 of Don't be Strangers. My name's XinYi and this is a series of collaborative conversations that focuses on sharing and learning about alternative ways to create agency in your life while manifesting deeper connections with everyone you meet. So in the last few episodes, I've mentioned that I would be doing an extended stay in Mexico for 2.5 months... well I'm recording this on my very last week of the first leg of my trip in the beautiful city of Oaxaca. And this episode is extra special because the guest is the host of our little coworking nomad group here.
This is the first time that I've ever joined a coworking nomad group and I could not have imagined a more empathetic, fun-loving, open minded, and caring host as Joe. This experience definitely wouldn't have been the same without him and you're about to find out why... We cover topics such as the (1) magic of journaling: how it's helped him capture experiences such that he can essentially time travel into his own memories, recognize patterns and behaviors, and overcoming a break up, (2) is anything truly frivolous or pointless?, (3) fomo (AKA the fear of missing out) and how it plays into travel, (4) a memoir he's currently writing, and (5) advice my future self would give me today. So this is Joe...
Timestamps
01:10 - Joe's personal intro
01:32 - Wifi Tribe
03:50 - Q Joe to XinYi: Over the weekend you wrote everybody little welcome/appreciation notes for their doors. What sparked this?
07:38 - Q XinYi to Joe: Knowing that you're a huge advocate for journaling, what are some of the most powerful experiences and revelations you've come to through journaling?
11:03 - Q XinYi to Joe: How often do you review your journals?
12:00 - Q Joe to XinYi: What is something you do that feels completely frivolous or pointless that brings you a lot of joy?
14:15 - XinYi's Excerpt: ๐ธ a love story about photography
19:41 - Joe: I think itโs very brave to admit youโre not a foodie.
21:53 - Joe's Mantra: "When your choices are rooted in your spirit, your experiences only propel you towards what is meant for you."
22:20 - XinYi's daily routine in Oaxaca, Mexico
25:22 - Q XinYi to Joe: Besides your memoir, what are some large scale projects you've taken on or want to take on that you think would be extremely fulfilling for you. Why? What about these projects ignites you the most?
29:57 - Priya Parkerโs The Art of Gathering: How We Meet And Why It Matters
30:42 - Q Joe to XinYi: What is something you've learned this year that nobody told you?
33:02 - XinYi's word of 2021: Movement
33:41 - Q Joe to XinYi: knowing what you know about being a nomad now, does it make sense that Chicago is a nomad city?
35:42 - Q XinYi to Joe: What is the most thoughtful gift you've ever received? What is the most thoughtful gift you've ever given?
38:41 - XinYi's best gifts she's received
41:10 - Impermanence and Non-attachment
42:21 - Q Joe to XinYi: Journal Prompt - Pretend it's 2026 and you're writing a letter to yourself right now in 2021. What three things would you make sure to include? Be specific!
44:31 - Tim Ferris Show ft. Remit Sethi Ep #524: Ramit Sethi โ How to Play Offense with Money, Plan Bucket Lists, Build a Rich Life with Your Partner, and Take a Powerful $100 Challenge
44:39 - Remit Sethi Podcast: I will Teach You To Be Rich
45:59 - XinYi: I always want to challenge myself... like, what am I missing? What have I not considered? And that's why I love meeting and talking with strangers and friends because you old information that my mind has not even accessed. We just need to ask the right questions.
47:07 - โMost people overestimate what they can do in one year and underestimate what they can do in ten years.โ โ Bill Gates
48:31 - Q XinYi to Joe: How do you define a stranger and at what point do they transition from being one to not being one?
54:27 - Joe: Iโve been so inspired by the female experience, especially in the 21st century in which like women have to be able to communicate with one another in full sentences just through glances.
55:33 - Joe: Parasocial relationships โ there's definitely some podcasters that I listen to, that I'm like "these are some of my best friends and they don't know I exist and I think that's ok!"
So before I forget, I mentioned something something about an extension to the podcast project involving handwritten notes. I have always wanted to facilitate a pen pal community of some sort so... so I'm in the middle of manifesting it. The differentiator between this pen pal community and others out there is that you'll receive a monthly postcard designed by me with a thought-provoking prompt inspired by one of the episodes on this podcast, you'll fill out that postcard and forward it to someone in the group. In this way, it's not a huge time commitment because the postcard will limit the amount you write (although you can certainly write more if you'd like), the nature of the project naturally vets for and connects you with people who you already know are into interesting conversation topics because they like such prompts/this podcast, and to top it all off you get monthly designs and a handwritten card. This is still a work in progress but I'd love love love to hear what your thoughts are.
Speaking of which, feedback, comments, and discussions always welcomed in this community. Free to shoot a dm or leave a public comment and start a thread @dontbestrangers on instagram! As anyone of any background can apply to come on to co-host an ep, this is my invitation to you to consider applying! Or if you know anyone who appreciates deep conversations or loves making friends, you should consider nominating them to come on the show!
Thank you again Joe for making my experience in Oaxaca so absolutely memorable and I'm excited to see you again in Playa del Carmen. If you'd like to get in touch with him to discuss more about journaling best practices or dig a bit into any of the topics we touched, you can find his contact linked in the show notes or on instagram at @savagesantini! Or if you want a personal introduction, remember that you can always just reach out, and don't be a stranger! Let's talk again soon. โจ